Indeed, I am starting to wonder if I might actually be, contrary to all my assumptions, an incredibly diligent and loving mother, after all...
Well, given that you killed your third child because "my career would be hamstrung and, most importantly of all, I was just too tired to do it all again" and that the decision to abort your child (with seemingly no consultation from his/her father) involved less consideration than deciding "what work-tops to have in the kitchen" - and you furthermore expected a pat on the back for what you consider to have been a brave and noble decision - I'd say you were, in accordance with my assumptions, a terrible, selfish, narcissistic, and quite frankly horrifying 'mother'.
Beta Bitch more like.
This, my brothers, is the sort of female feminism has left us with.
No wonder we don't want to breed with them.